Saying "I DO" To A Financially Strong Marriage
Getting to know your future spouse’s financial side
While all engaged couples dream of married bliss, finances can often be the number one problem in
marriage and a leading reason for divorce. The National Foundation for Credit Counseling (NFCC)
suggests that as couples mull over which fine china to select, where to honeymoon or even where to
live, they also talk about their current financial situation, future financial goals, and attitudes toward
spending and saving.
The NFCC provides the following tips for engaged couples to ensure that the marriage can start on
financially strong footing.
- Calculate your net worth individually and as a couple. Share information about full-, parttime
or supplemental income, monthly expenses, and existing loan and credit card debt. For
better or worse, you inherit all of your fiancé’s finance issues – the good, the bad and the ugly.
- Map out short- and long-term financial goals – including preferred living standards.
Perhaps you’ve talked about how many kids you want, what type of pets you prefer and who
gets to sleep on the left side of the bed. But have you truly shared your feelings on short- and
long-term goals? Does your future spouse have a desire to retire in his/her 50’s? Or does s/he
want a second house on the beach? What about retirement savings plans, insurance policies, life
insurance plans or investment accounts? Or perhaps you are on a strict budget to pay back the
debt you’ve accumulated. It is important to talk now about long-term goals and any necessary
- Develop a plan to reduce debt redundancies and to pay down debts. Identify areas where
bills unnecessarily overlap and look for opportunities to use your married status to decrease
expenses. For example, most cellular phone companies offer family plans that can cut monthly
phone costs, or see if joining the same gym can help to reduce monthly dues. The NFCC also
suggests creating a plan to pay down both of your debts. Credit cards in particular can be the
most expensive debt and have significant impact on the types of interest rates you might qualify
for when applying for a mortgage or car loan. Find ways to pay off credit cards entirely or at
least double your payments – never pay just the minimum on credit card bills.
- Create a comprehensive budget. Take into account current income and expenses. While the
income generally increases with a marriage, often times the expenses increase too. Take a
realistic look at what your new monthly expenses will be as a married couple. Keep in mind that
certain bills will increase such as groceries, commuting costs and even dry cleaning expenses.
Be sure to plan the amount of money you plan to place into savings each month to create a joint
emergency fund, to save for a down payment on a house or even to build a joint retirement nest
egg. Consider setting aside a small amount of money per week that each spouse can spend at his
or her discretion.
- Share your credit reports and credit scores. For many couples, marriage signifies the
impending desire to purchase a new home or make other major purchases. But it is crucial to
know about your fiancé’s credit report. Americans are entitled to a free credit report from each
of the three credit reporting agencies every 12 months. Log onto www.annualcreditreport.com
to obtain a copy of the report and consider purchasing your credit score (for a nominal fee). In
the process, carefully review the reports and correct any erroneous listings. Be sure to examine
both of your credit scores and debt-to-income ratios since lenders use this information when
assessing loan applications.
- Decide when to merge accounts. Discuss early on the pros and cons of maintaining separate or
joint accounts. If your fiancé has bad credit, maintain separate accounts for the time being, but
work with him or her to pay down the debt and begin the process of repairing a bad credit rating.
If you both have good credit, consider opening joint accounts for household expenses and
savings, but possibly maintaining a separate account for personal spending money.
- Plan the wedding of your dreams – and of your financial means. Now that you are headed
on the right path to financial bliss, be sure that the happiest day of you life does not become the
one that ruined your finances and credit rating for years to come. Be sure to set a budget prior to
planning the wedding and stick to it! There are lots of convenient ways to cut costs and still
have a beautiful wedding.